https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/Essays and reflections by Alexandra Choutko.https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/i-confused-responsibility-with-harshness/https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/i-confused-responsibility-with-harshness/The hatred fueling my transformation, the need to become someone you can stay with, and learning to change from a place of tenderness.https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/if-i-am-only-nice-enough-my-story/https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/if-i-am-only-nice-enough-my-story/Recognising confusion as a strategy, owning what I am doing, and discovering the adult seat inside me.https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/staying-harmless-through-confusion/https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/staying-harmless-through-confusion/How we confuse ourselves to stay harmless, how the childhood strategy exhausts our lives now, and its collective consequences.https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/if-i-am-only-nice-enough/https://blog.alexandrachoutko.com/if-i-am-only-nice-enough/On the bargains we make for care, the confusion that sustains them, and the responsibility of creating our lives.